One of my goals for 2011 is to finally potty train my three year old. His birthday was back in October and it's starting to get to the point where it's looking like a mom fail type of thing. I think we made the mistake of trying to introduce potty training too early back when he was about two. I bought a potty chair and put it in the bathroom and he seemed interested in it so I took his diaper off and let him pee in it. Well he loved all the clapping and what not that went along with that so he kept doing it. We never put underwear or anything on, I didn't want to push it, but he would go in there sometimes and want his diaper off and then he would pee. But then he lost interest all together. But I thought, no big deal he's only two.
Here we are today and he acts like the potty chair and any mention of peeing or god forbid pooping in the potty are reason for an all out temper tantrum and a general loosing his shit type of a moment. If we even mention that he should try and pee in the potty he freaks out. I keep hearing from everyone to just tell him that all the diapers are gone and to put him in underwear and he won't like peeing and pooping on himself (no kidding) and that he will eventually just start going to the potty when he has to go. First of all I think that is kinda mean but whatever, I guess it's just one of those things you do and hope they won't be talking about in therapy years from now. Second of all, I don't think "those people" who lovingly offer this advice completely understand the willpower and stubbornness of my three year old. Jason and I tried to put a pair of underwear on him recently and it was like trying to put underwear on a wildcat. I had to hold him in my lap with his arms pinned down and Jason had to try and get one leg in before he would take it out again. He was screaming, crying, slobbering and generally trying to claw my face off. We did finally get the underwear on and he ran off totally pissed and within 10 seconds had ripped the underwear off and threw them at us and demanded the diaper that he also threw in my face be put back on him. I don't know what to do, if he won't even put the damn underwear on, how is he supposed to pee and poop on himself and therefore learn to go to the potty???
We've watched the potty training DVD, we've put the potty training poster up on the bathroom wall and bought special stickers for when he finally does go, we've bought cool underwear, we bought a potty chair and the potty ring for the big toilet, we've let him witness his cousin and best buddy go potty in the "big boy potty" (I think I've said that about a million times in the past month), I haven't peed or pooped alone since the child was able to crawl, so I think he gets the general workings of how it's supposed to go down. WHAT ELSE SHOULD I DO???
This is one of those things "they" don't tell you before you have kids that will totally consume your life for an unspecified amount of time and make you want to pull your hair out. I feel like your child's peeing and pooping is something that from day one can drive you crazy. I mean from the second they are born you are told to chart how much they are peeing and pooping for the first so many days, then you are constantly worried about the color, texture, amount they are excreting. If the poop changes in any way you become obsessed with the why and what has changed to make it so. It's OUT OF CONTROL!!!
OK, sorry I had to vent a little. Anyway, I'm longing for the day my child can pee and poop on his own and it would be nice if that occurred before baby #2 gets here. The thought of having to buy two sets of diapers is something I'm not willing to accept. If any of you have any suggestions please advise, I'm truly desperate!